11 Secret Ways To Spot a Golddigger That Nobody Will Tell You

If you feel you are only meeting women with one interest (your money), or there’s a specific girl in your life that seems interested in how much money you can spend on her, then what you may have here is a golddigger problem.

“She take my money when I’m in need
Yeah, she’s a triflin’ fiend indeed
Oh, she’s a golddigger
Way over town,
that digs on me.”

A golddigger is a loose term used for a woman who’s entire reason for dating a guy is for him to spend money on her.

Often this doesn’t become apparent until it is too late and you’ve already been swindled out of your money and time by someone who may not even like you for anything other than the contents of your wallet. To keep this from happening to you, it’s important to know how to spot the early warning signs that you may be dealing with a golddigger.

What follows are the top 11 warning signs of a gold digger!

11. They Ask To Go Somewhere Expensive On The First Date

Most of the time, a golddigger won’t even bother going on a date unless they get a totally free meal from a five-star dining establishment (of your choice, at least). Now, while you may want to avoid taking someone to McDonald’s on an initial date, that doesn’t mean you should break the bank.

Restaurants are a bad idea for first dates. If one (or both) of you doesn’t feel any chemistry, then you’re stuck twirling bread-sticks and trying to make awkward conversation over an over-priced slice of beef. It’s not a great experience for anyone

Instead of going to a restaurant, go get a coffee. If it is nice out, go for a walk. A first date should cost less than 20 bucks, and anyone pushing for it to cost substantially more than that is more interested in the financial benefit of going out with you than with just going out with you – and that – is a big flashing warning sign that you may be dealing with a golddigger.

10. They Never Pay For Anything

Gold diggers always expect that you will pay for every single date. Conversely, people that aren’t gold diggers will usually opt to divide the check, pay for a pint, or treat you every once in a while. Healthy relationships are give and take in equal measure.

This doesn’t mean you should keep a running tally in your head of everything you purchased vs. everything they bought for you, just that if you realize after a few weeks that they’ve never done something nice for you without being asked, then they probably don’t like you. They just like what you are buying them.

9. They Are Extremely Interested in How Much Money You Make

Typically, people understand that it’s disrespectful to inquire about cash, so they avoid inquiring about it early in a relationship. Lots of insecure guys like to offer up how much money they make within the first few dates, even when they aren’t asked.

These guys are the type that link their success to their merit as a partner, which is like asking for someone to use you for your money. You need to develop a sense of self-worth that’s disconnected from your income. Once you do that, you’ll be more aware of when someone is showing an inordinate amount of interest in how much money you have saved or invested.

8. Golddiggers Have A Sense of Entitlement

Most gold diggers carry themselves with a sense of entitlement. Instead of working hard for the things they want in life, they believe things need to be given to them. I know what you’re thinking; “doesn’t that describe everyone?” Yes, to varying degrees, but in the case of gold diggers, it’s even more pronounced. They see themselves as better than others and more deserving than others.

Pay attention to how they talk about other people in relation to how they see themselves.

6. They Are Always Asking About What You Own

When you are getting to know somebody, it’s normal to bring up in conversation if you own a car or a home. The difference with gold diggers is the specificity of the information that they want. A golddigger won’t just be curious about your car; they will right away desire to know what kind of vehicle you have, how much it cost you, how much you owe on it.

Gold diggers who are skilled at manipulating the conversation may ease you into giving out lots of information regarding your financial situation without you even realizing it. Pay attention to where a conversation is going and where the person you’re speaking with’s interests lie.

5. Your Entire Relationship is Shallow Even After Months of Dating

If you’re dating a golddigger, there will not be much of an emotional link developed between the two of you. After all, she’s in love with your cash, not you. The easiest way to test whether this is the case of your relationship is to earnestly ask yourself if the person you are dating even likes you.

Do they like the books you like, the music, the Netflix show you like, do they enjoy spending time with you? This isn’t to say that you need to agree on everything or like all the same stuff, but if they are completely uninterested in any of the meaningless things that make you you – then there’s a good chance they don’t like you either.

4. They’re Friends With Other Gold Diggers

Have you ever heard the phrase “birds of a feather flock together“? All it means is that like attracts like, people tend to gravitate towards people like themselves, and as such, you can judge a person by the company they keep. Sometimes, it’s much easier to identify a gold digger from a distance.

When you’re in a relationship with someone, it’s easy to get blinded to their negative traits. This is why you should pay attention to the type of people your significant other is friends with. If your girlfriend is buddies with a team of women who are clearly gold diggers, it is most likely that your girl is just like her friends.

3. They Want to Jump into Marriage

If you want to avoid being stuck in a marriage contract with a golddigger, it just makes sense to take things slower. A golddigger will want to get married quickly, after all, so slowing that down can give you more time to see if they are someone you can trust and also allow you to see how they react to a delay on tying the knot.

2. They Withhold Sex to Get What They Want

Gold diggers are usually extremely manipulative with sex. If your girlfriend only wants to have sex as some kind of reward for you buying them something, then you aren’t in a relationship in the traditional sense where two people love each other – you just have a prostitute that you occasionally watch Netflix with.

The simple fact is if your girlfriend doesn’t want to have sex with you, if she doesn’t like having sex with you if she acts like sex is a chore. Then she doesn’t even like you; in all probability, she hates you. Do you think she would turn down sex with mid-90s era Brad Pitt? No, because she’s actually attracted to him. Is she attracted to you?

1. Friends and Family Try to Warn You That She Is a Golddigger

Last but definitely not least is that your family and friends are continuously informing you you’re dating a golddigger. They may joke about it or approach you with genuine concern, but either way, they will try to warn you. Hearing them speak poorly of your new girlfriend may cause you to get offended and try to safeguard your partnership from them.

Remember, though, they may see something you aren’t, and their concerns shouldn’t be taken lightly.